When you love someone – whether it’s a friend, a family member, a significant other – you see things they don’t. Things that clutter up their life. Or worse.
All the stuff that makes their life harder than it has to be.
It hurts to see them like that. Because you love them, you want to do something. You want to help.
The best way to help? It’s not to put on your superhero cape, swoop in, and solve “their problem.” I’ve learned the hard way, that usually does more harm than good.
The best way to help? Clear a space for them. By something as simple as catching up with them for coffee. Or a phone call, a text, or an email.
Knock a hole in their usual routine. So they can make a break for a moment with all of the things that clutter up their life.
Help them to see the stuff that makes their life harder than it has to be.
And be there to help them deal with it. Even if their way of dealing with it is less than perfect.
If this sounds familiar, it should. Because it’s how God operates.
It’s why the Church does what it does. It’s the point of all the churchy stuff. Whether it’s the Mass, a familiar prayer, or just a quiet moment in an empty pew.
It’s there to clear a space for you and me. To knock a hole in our usual routines. So you and I can make a break for a moment with all of the things that clutter up our lives.
So we can see the stuff that makes our lives harder than it has to be.
But let’s be clear – clearing that space is not about letting us know how bad things are, how big the pile is, how we screwed up. Or how far we feel from God.
It’s about letting us know that we’re not alone.
That if we clear a space, even for just a moment, we’ll find that God is as close as a heartbeat.
That God loves us. And will be with us every step of the way.
Even if our way of dealing with it is less than perfect.