Divorce hurts

In Sunday's Gospel (Mark), Jesus gets quizzed by the Pharisees about marriage and divorce.  And responds with the first reading.  Jesus quotes the passage at the heart of the Church's understanding of marriage (see yesterday's post). 

And then Jesus goes a step farther.  Adding that what God has joined together, let no one put asunder.  And that means that divorce is?  Not the way it's supposed to be. 

Which is why divorce hurts.  For everyone, including the children.  Because it was never meant to be that way. 

Even when divorce is absolutely necessary, we still grieve the loss.  Because on some level we know what it was supposed to be, what it could have been. 

And it's okay to mourn a loss like that. 

More on this tomorrow.  Readings for Sunday